What Not to Say When Your Man Isn’t in the Mood


“Just let me do all the work.”

Your man might really love you and let you have your way with him, despite him not being in the mood, but for some reason or another forcing yourself on him doesn’t seem like the right way to go unless he brings it up.

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I did this once with my boyfriend, and believe me, I was the one who felt foolish. I felt selfish and guilty for making my horniness overrule compassion.

“Let’s just make out.”

I’m all for kissing, don’t get me wrong. But when your man isn’t in the mood, kissing might be a torturous thing. It’s kinda like trying to get him to nibble on food when he’s stuffed to the rim. Kissing ought to be organic and real, but using it because of a lack of better options isn’t going to bring much of a spark.

A gay couple about to kiss.

“Are you mad at me?”

Sometimes there are situations when you should ask this question, but for the most part, it’s riddled with self-pity and a passive need to apologize. In may ways, it’s a cop out to make something all about you when it never really was to begin with.

“Shut up and do it.”

If your man doesn’t want to have sex, do not guilt him into doing it. If you think about it, not only are you semi-raping him, you’re also emotionally raping him.

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If you’re that horny to get off, do it yourself. If you force him to have sex with you, you’re planting a weird seed in his head that will soon turn into resentment. Don’t do it!

“Just let me just suck you off.”

If you think sucking him off will get him in the mood after he’s straight up told you he’s not, you need to check yourself. Don’t be that desperate. It’s all good. The only thing you’re going to get is a crick in your neck.

David Artavia is an actor and writer from New York City. He loves living vicariously through his friends. Follow him on Twitter and Like his Facebook page.

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