Demi Lovato Opens Up About Reclaiming ‘She/Her’ Pronouns: “It Was Absolutely Exhausting”

Demi Lovato opened up about their journey as a nonbinary person and why they chose to identify as she/her and they/them: “I just got tired.”

The Grammy-nominated artist came out as nonbinary in 2021 and said they prefer to use they/them pronouns during an episode of their podcast, “4D With Demi Lovato.”

“Over the past year-and-a-half I’ve been doing some healing and some reflective work, and through this work I’ve had the revelation that I identify as non-binary,” Lovato said.

“With that said, I’ll officially be changing my pronouns to they/them,” they continued. “I feel this best represents the fluidity I feel in my gender expression and allows me to feel most authentic and true to the person I both know I am and still am discovering.”

The Truth behind Their Pronouns Update

However, one year later, Lovato quietly updated their pronouns in their Instagram bio to she/her and they/them. The singer later spoke on the “Spout” podcast about the change.

“Recently, I’ve been feeling more feminine, and so I’ve adopted ‘she/her’ again,” they said at the time. But in a recent interview with GQ Hype Spain, Lovato said the change also had to do with the exhaustion they felt from constantly having to explain their gender identity to people around them.

“I constantly had to educate people and explain why I identified with those pronouns,” Lovato revealed. “It was absolutely exhausting. I just got tired. But for that very reason, I know that it is important to continue spreading the word.”


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Later in the interview, the “29” singer said the lack of gender neutral spaces began affecting their everyday life.

“For example, in public toilets,” they continued. “Having to access the women’s bathroom, even though I don’t completely identify with it.

“Or it also happens when filling out forms, such as government documents or any other where you have to specify your gender. You only have two options, male and female, and I feel like none of that makes sense to me.

“I see myself conditioned to choose a woman because there are no more. I think this has to change. Hopefully with time there will be more options.”

When it comes to pronouns, Lovato acknowledged how difficult it can be when others are learning and adapting, and said they hope people continue to grow and show respect. “I think what’s important is, like, nobody’s perfect.”


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Lovato’s Latest Releases

Last year, Lovato released a new punk album called Holy Fvck, which included popular singles such as “Skin of my Teeth” and “Substance.” The 30-year-old singer also recorded a new single for the recent Scream movie, appropriately titled “Still Alive,” earlier this year.

They posted in honor of Pride month in June and wrote, “And for any and everyone navigating their sexual orientation and gender journey, know that you are all extraordinary and exactly who you’re supposed to be. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.”

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Demi Lovato Opens Up About Reclaiming ‘She/Her’ Pronouns: “It Was Absolutely Exhausting”
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