Historic Houston Throuple’s Polaroid Collection Up for Auction

By Josh Azevedo

Posted on April 1, 2025

A rare collection of over 9,700 Polaroid photos, chronicling the lives of a groundbreaking Houston throuple, is set to be auctioned at the upcoming ABAA New York International Antiquarian Book Fair. The collection, spanning from 1964 to 1991, documents the polyamorous relationship between Jay Hollenburger, Arthur Slaughter, and Gary Grether, affectionately known as JAG.

A Groundbreaking Throuple

The three men began their romantic journey around 1970 when Hollenburger and Slaughter, who had been together since 1961, welcomed Grether into their relationship. A quote from the couple during this time captured their dynamic: “I don’t love you any less, but I love this man as well.”

Hollenburger, Slaughter, and Grether lived openly as a gay throuple during a time when such relationships were not widely accepted. Slaughter was particularly vocal about the importance of being visible, believing that greater societal acceptance of the LGBTQ+ community would come from better understanding. The trio often hosted elaborate parties, including the annual “Follyball” event in the 1970s, which uniquely combined drag shows with volleyball.

A Legacy of Photographs

Hollenburger meticulously documented their lives together, recording the date, location, and names of attendees for nearly every Polaroid photograph. Archivists believe that Hollenburger could have amassed as many as 20,000 photos throughout their years together. Many of the images capture the vibrant social circle and festive gatherings the throuple hosted.

The collection provides an intimate glimpse into the lives of this historic trio, offering both a personal and social history of the time. The Polaroids span decades, documenting the evolution of their relationship, friendships, and community. Tragically, Grether and Slaughter both passed away due to AIDS, in 1990 and 1995, respectively. Hollenburger, the last surviving member, passed away in September 2024, and the photos were later acquired at his estate sale.

The Auction and What’s Next

The Polaroid collection will be available for sale at the ABAA New York International Antiquarian Book Fair, which will take place from April 3 to 6 at the Park Avenue Armory. The photos offer a unique and candid look into the lives of a pioneering polyamorous trio, and their legacy as trailblazers within the LGBTQ+ community.

For collectors, history enthusiasts, and those interested in LGBTQ+ culture, this collection provides a rare window into a chapter of queer history, captured through the lens of love, community, and acceptance. Scroll below to see some of the photos that will be at the auction!