Let’s face it; it doesn’t take much for gay guys to hook up on the first date. It’s an icebreaker, a decision-making tool on whether we should continue dating. Sex is in our nature, and we use it like a weapon.
But in spite of all that, we rarely discuss how to hit a home run on the first date. Believe me, hooking up can result in many different outcomes.
But, if this guy’s someone you truly want to see again, the buildup is more important than the act. Once you get him in bed, that’s what he’ll remember.
1. Start and finish at your place
Invite him over to your place before you head off, that way you can offer to ride together, which leaves his car in your driveway. This is a risky move because he could be total tool and he’s a stranger, but it could be worth it in the long run.
If you’re uncomfortable with him knowing where you live, you could meet in the middle. Make sure you’re home is welcoming; you could set up a mini bar so if he decides to come in, he’ll feel more comfortable and you’ll look classier.
2. Be bang-able
But, don’t be sleazy. If you want to attract a man, be the type of guy you’re attracted to. Dress like him, look like him, act like him, be him, because at the end of the day, the man you’re attracted to is often a version of yourself. It won’t feel inauthentic at all, in fact, it should feel liberating. Make him want you.
3. Don’t talk too much
You want to be intimate without being aggressive, and talking too much can be a major turn off in the heat of the moment. Make eye contact with him and savor the intimate silence. Take in his smell, essence and energy. Shut up and just enjoy being in the moment.
Going on a date with a talking head is exhausting, so be the ear instead. You can get anyone to talk about themselves, and you’ll be surprised to learn more about him. So sit back and listen.
4. Don’t take yourself too seriously
You aren’t God’s gift to humanity. It’s fine. Drop the act and talk to him like a human being. Connect with him as an equal because the biggest thing preventing a connection is assumed hierarchy. When a man believes you think you’re above him, he’ll resent you. It will take a long time to get his trust back.