An AskReddit thread asked gay people who are blind how they knew they were gay. Here are a few of our favorite submissions.
1. You ever just smell a food from afar and think to yourself ‘that must be delicious?’
“You ever just smell a food from afar and think to yourself, ‘that must be delicious?’”
It’s like that.
Except it’s dicks.”
2. You know when you see someone and are attracted to them? It’s kind of like that, but I can’t see.
“I’ve been blind since birth and extremely gay. You know when you see someone and are attracted to them? It’s kind of like that, but I can’t see.”
3. My cock is so fun to play with, I assume different ones would be, too!
“I am typing this for my gay blind friend.
He said, and I quote, ‘My cock is so fun to play with, I assume different ones would be, too!’”
4. I first knew I was gay when I was sitting over at a friend’s house for a party and several women were going on and on about the most inane nonsense.
“Blind gay guy here. I first knew I was gay when I was sitting over at a friend’s house for a party and several women were going on and on about the most inane nonsense. They would shriek and cackle like banshees. Later in the evening a few women partygoers started prodding the host and made him feel bad about throwing the party. Ever since then when I hear a woman’s voice, I can’t get aroused. These things must be incredible to look at. Yikes.”
5. I hear the voices of guys and it just sounds attractive to me.
“Honestly, the same way as a normal person. I hear the voices of guys and it just sounds attractive to me. Even though I can’t ‘see’ them physically mentally I can picture how they look. I wasn’t blind until I was age 14, but I realized I was gay when I was 18.
(My boyfriend is blind, I just typed this out for him :] )”
“Smell…pheromones play a major part in attraction.”
7. When you think about kissing someone, say around second grade or so, you know if they want to kiss boys or girls.
“Hi, I’m an actual blind person. For me, I’m actually pansexual, but I am equally sexually attracted to the bodies of both men and women, and the voices. Honestly, it’s not all that different from how sighted people know they’re gay. When they think about kissing someone, say around second grade or so, they know if they want to kiss boys or girls.”
8. I can’t tell you anything other than, well, when I hear a man’s voice I like, I get an erection.
“As a blind gay person, I can answer this because I was legally blind and now I am totally blind.
For all of the questions about attractions, I encourage all of you to read the good dates on my blog and that will answer a lot of your questions….
I found the idea of a male body, male voice, male hair, sexually arousing. I can’t tell you anything other than, well, when I hear a man’s voice I like, I get an erection. I don’t know how else to explain it other than that.
When I was legally blind I liked the build of men and the touch of a man’s body and hands. I like muscles on a man and I liked, when I could see some, men with tans because they also were easier to see, but that’s beside the point.
I just knew I never found women sexually attractive, like at all. When listening to porn, watching porn when I was legally blind, or the like. I’ve always been attracted to men but I figured it out a bit late into my teen years because I grew up in a part of FL where I wasn’t around a lot of gay people and my school for the blind didn’t have a lot of open and out gay students or staff who I felt like I could confide in, but, as a teenager, I always had sexual fantasies about men and I pretty much just knew that I was gay.
For me, voice and hands are very much my defining basis. There’s little things I evaluate like how hairy a guy is or how tall he is, I like men who are taller than I am, by the way, if his face has a nice shape, and yes, I do feel faces but it’s when I know them a bit longer and when I want to learn more about this very hot sounding man I am attracted to. I don’t go about feeling dudes’ faces randomly or every time I meet a person.
This is true for me now, but it was also true when I was legally blind. Since I can’t look at pictures anymore, I have to depend on solely how they execute their thoughts in an email or text message or anywhere online. Written communication is a huge factor in my dating decisions. If you can’t hold my interest with sentences and paragraphs and you’d rather just write one-worded replies to my messages, chances are you won’t go out with me.
I won’t ask you to go out with me. Of course, there are exceptions to this rule, but I am firm when it comes to my tastes. If you can’t articulate a complete thought or an idea in an email or Facebook post, chances are I will lose interest in you very quickly.
But basically, my attractions hinge on the voice, the body build, and how that appeals to my touch, and how well you can verbally and textually communicate. I also like taller men, but that’s a preference.
Obviously, smell is a huge factor as well, but I am not as picky about that as I am other factors but there are certain men smells that instantly give me an erection.”
9. I had a strange feeling when close to people of my own sex that I did not have when I was with women.
“I knew that I was very different from the other kids, and I felt horribly lonely. I didn’t fit in with the sighted kids, but what was worse, I didn’t fit in with the blind kids, either. All the boys were interested in sports and rough games. I wasn’t. Some talked about girls, but because I was blind from birth, and because nobody ever talked to me about sex, I had no idea what was being discussed. I am ashamed to say that I didn’t even know the difference between girls and boys, except that girls were usually nicer to me, and yet, I felt a strange feeling when hugging a male student….
What is surprising, and very important, is that I began to realize that I was attracted to other boys and men, and not to women. I realized that I had a strange feeling when close to people of my own sex that I did not have when I was with women.
Remember, whether we can see or not, whether we can hear or not, whether we can walk or not, we are all human beings with the same needs, desires, wants, dreams, and hopes. We are not as different as our outward appearance would make you think at first glance.”
10. He actually went to a high school for the blind. … That’s where he fully discovered his affection for other males.
“My brother was born blind and has recently come out as gay (he’s 21). There’s much more to sexual attraction than just visual aspects. As he explained to me, in middle school and high school he just started to notice that he was more attracted to boys than girls — their deeper voices, assertiveness, and masculine scent. He also found people who were interested in “boy” stuff like sports, guns, video games, etc. to be more interesting and attractive than people who were into the stereotypical things females like.
He actually went to a high school for the blind and was on the wrestling team there (yes, there is such a thing) his junior and senior years. As funny as it sounds, that’s where he fully discovered his affection for other males — once he became physical with them on the wrestling mat.”
11. When I was 11 or 12, I didn’t really understand the difference between boys and girls.
“When I was 11 or 12, I didn’t really understand the difference between boys and girls. To me, they were the same except that men turned me on and women didn’t. I did not know about body parts (breasts, vagina, penis, etc.) and yet, I was attracted to my same sex.”
To read more responses, check out the full Reddit thread here.